• ???
  • You don’t believe in equality of genders???
  • ???
  • You don’t know what feminism actually is?

Some actual reasons:

- You’re not white, cis, straight, or middle/upper class, and you’ve been exposed to a brand of feminism that you don’t feel represents you

- You may just not be the type to align yourself with labels

- You hold feminist ideals, but are disgusted by the actual actions of feminists and realize that the movement and the ideology are two different things


Just your daily reminders:

  • Racists are a problem
  • White people are not
  • Homophobes are a problem
  • Straight people are not
  • Transphobes are a problem
  • Cis people are not
  • Sexists are a problem
  • Men are not

And most importantly,

  • Hating an innocent person solely because of their race, sexuality, or gender makes you a fucking asshole

(Source: egalitarianyellowfang)




leggings as pants are fine as long as i can’t see your vagina outline like i’m not signing up for that shit

because it’s all a big secret right

secret leggings

secret vagina 



(Source: wordlesslanguage)


also i saw this on the unicef twitter page and thought id share

also i saw this on the unicef twitter page and thought id share

also i saw this on the unicef twitter page and thought id share


also i saw this on the unicef twitter page and thought id share



this would be a good time to donate to xkit-extension because they’re doing a lot of hard work and they’re just one dude so yknow. toss some cash their way if you can so we can go back to blogging properly.

seriously, chrome broke fucking EVERYTHING in xkit and dude put it first priority before a paying gig and 100% burnt himself out getting it back to moderate functionality. if you use xkit and have money to donate, definitely do. the work he puts in is worth it.







I’ve had enough of your shit.

(Photo by Feminists United at Clark University)

Sorry to say this but you kinda have to validate why, you can’t say you need something then don’t say why.
I don’t go into a bank and ask for a loan and say “I shouldn’t have to validate why” especially when you’re trying to convince someone to accept your viewpoint
0/10 try again

You’re kidding, right? Please tell me you’re kidding, “gangplank-is-my-waifu.” Because you’re completely missing the point. This is not a bank loan. We are not “asking” anymore. The fact of the matter is that 1 out of 3 women will be raped in their lifetime. The fact of the matter is that we are not seen as equals. We never have been. We make up half of the population, and yet there’s only 18% women in Congress. Recently, all of the Republican Senators voted against equal pay for women. We are still fighting for bodily autonomy.

The fact that this is still a fight is bullshit. It is 2014. I should NOT have to validate why I deserve to be treated as an equal. It should just be common sense.

Oh my gosh so much ridiculousness in this post.

"1 out of 3 women will be raped in her lifetime"- not true, especially in first world countries like the one you live in. According to the U.S. Department of Justice’s National Crime Victimization Survey —there is an average of 237,868 victims (age 12 or older) of rape and sexual assault each year.  That is equal to about 0.0016% of women that will be raped or sexually assaulted, not 33%. Does that mean rape is still not serious? No. But exploiting the numbers of sexual assault to propel your own movement is sick and wrong.

"We make up half of the population, and yet there’s only 18% women in Congress." - you are seriously under the impression that all women agree with only the women that try running for Congress? Women in America are actually more likely to turn out to vote than men. That means that if women actually wanted a specific woman running for Congress, they would vote her in. But see, not all women will vote for a candidate just because she’s a woman. It doesn’t have to do with their gender, it has to do with her political views and whether or not they agree with them.

"Recently all the Republican Senators voted against equal pay for women." -because we already have laws legislating that gender discrimination in the workplace is illegal (aka the Equal Pay Act of 1963). The only reason there is a wage gap between men and women is because women on average tend to major in careers that don’t pay as highly and tend to work less hours than men. Passing pointless laws may in fact actually hurt women, as employers may end up being less likely to hire women over the fear of facing untrue discrimination lawsuits.

Feminism is by definition a political and social movement, so you better bet you need to validate what you are fighting for. Saying “I need feminism because I should not have to validate why I need it” is basically like saying “I need the 2nd Amendment because I shouldn’t need to validate why I need it.” Uh, yes you do need to at least validate it. You need to be able to at least justify your views so we can understand why you need it.

I’m sorry but did you forget basic comprehension and maths? 1/3 in her lifetime not 1/3 every year. I shouldn’t even need to elaborate why your breakdown of the numbers is wrong and nothing more than a meager attempt to erase the life experiences of 1/3 of women.

I think the thing that baffles me the most about the “1 in 3” myth that the feminist movement perpetuates is your inability to do basic math.

Like do you realize how many women that is? Do you realize how many women would have to be raped every single year to make that statistic true?

You are saying that 33% of women in the United States are raped in their lifetime. I hope you realize that this means you are saying that that number is 52,866,666 women (there are 158.6 million women in the US). There were around 75,000 rapes in 2010. Even if all of these rapes were women, it would take 704 years for that number to reach your 52.86 million women.

To reach your statistic of “52.86 million women have been raped,” you’d have to have a rape incidence rate of 528,666 women per year (using 100 years, a very generous estimate as the “lifetime occurrence” baseline). You realize that’s more than the UN report covering incidence rate of rape in 65 different countries, right?

You’re saying that in the US, over 500,000 women are raped every year, more than the TOTAL of the 65 countries included in that UN report. Yeah forgive me if I’m skeptical.






A man just walked past me and said “excuse me, but you look very nice tonight darlin” I said thank you and he said you’re welcome and walked off. And that is how you compliment a woman without harassing them

No, that is still unsolicited, and thus, harassment. No amount of “darlins” is gonna make me not want to punch your ass for coming on to me without provocation.






the comic is killing me

(Source: cremebun)


  • Stop calling people wo practice palm reading, scrying, and tarot readings g*psies
  • Stop calling women who wear head scarves and flowing skirts and metal jewlery g*psies
  • Stop calling nomadic people g*psies
  • Stop calling free-spirited people g*psies
  • Stop calling hippes g*psies
  • Stop using the term g*psy in your title, header, url or links you put on posts
  • Stop thinking that Hollywood “g*psies” are actual accurate representations of the Romani people

Fun facts about the word g*psy

  • It’s a slur
  • If you’re a white bread kid calling yourself a g*psy it’s bullshit and racist
  • If you know people of Roma descent and they say g*psy, that’s their right because it is a word that they can choose to reclaim or use but you can’t (think of it like the “n” word. You may know black people  that use it but you shouldn’t if you aren’t a black person because that’s not right)
  • The term being “gypped” or being cheated or swindled originated from the racist slur g*psy so try saying something less fucking racist like “i got ripped off”
  • Basically
  • Stop using that fucking word because it’s racist
  • it’s not up for debate
  • don’t do it
  • ok

What you can call them instead:

  • Roma/Romani (because that is the commonly accepted term to cover all branches and groups of the Romani peoples)
  • If you know that someone falls under the blanket term Roma, ask them what they would prefered to be refrerred to as because that’s just as fucking important as using the proper pronouns believe it or not


Someone from another minority which is regularly ignored, fetishized, and disrespected through the use of racist terms that people can’t get through their thick fucking skulls




This particular set doesn’t make the rounds on Tumblr much, probably because it’s a bit darker in tone - I think it drives the point home a lot better. 

The white one is so irrelevant. I can’t breath.

Really? So I guess the rampant poverty and disrespect held towards white people in the South is nothing? You don’t think you’d be affected at all if your entire life you were told you were stupid, inbred, uneducated, and bigoted, simply because of your geographic location and skin color? Not at all? Of course. This is why people in the South are so successful right? Poverty in the South affects black people and white people, largely because A) it’s seen as a huge political target so the goal of many political groups is to keep those people in the dark, just to win points during election seasons and B) because the nation sees that area as 100% backwards so doesn’t tend to lend any help or sympathy to the people there. 

I have seen people on this very site who live in the South, who are very progressive people, who have to put up with so many stereotypes and false accusations simply because they are white and live in the South. Can you imagine for a second, people assuming that because you have a Southern drawl and light skin that you obviously must be a terrible person? A bigot? No one wants to be a bigot (maybe not no one - anyone who gleefully accepts the title is worth talking to in any case). It’s an insult. So especially if you live your life trying to make the world a better place, only to be constantly dragged down because of the color of your skin and because of where you grew up, it does have a large effect. And it is hurtful. 

Don’t comment on what another person goes through if you haven’t yourself gone through it. I grew up in the Valley, in California. But the other half of my family is from the South, many from the deep South. I have an affinity there. And I know that family is accepting - they are not anti-gay, they are not racist, but when they visit they get odd looks. People look at them and listen to them like they’re from another planet, because of their accent. People who don’t jump to judgement just find it “adorable”, thinking of the way they talk as a novelty. 

Does this sound familiar? Of course it does. Because it’s the same thing that happens to plenty of other groups.

But it goes completely untalked about. Because of people, like yourself, who just don’t think it’s a big deal. So fine. Let’s talk about some other cultures unrepresented here. The Irish have an entire holiday in the United States dedicated to making a mockery of their culture, which has historically been trodden on by many other groups. The stigmatization of the Irish in this country is so bad, they’re treated more as mythical creatures than as actual human beings. How about Russians? You wanna talk about stigma - they may not get the costumes (though I’m sure they do) but having grown up in an area with a lot of Russian immigrants, I’ve seen my fair share of people tormenting and judging them - I can’t imagine what it would be like to grow up as a Russian immigrant in a country who treats them as the second favorite target after Middle Easterners and Muslims. How about non-Israeli Jews? Largely discluded from POC groups on Tumblr, despite having a heritage in the Middle East. They tend to be successful, but only at the cost of being seen as walking stereotypes and one of the biggest victims of racism in this country. 

And you honest to god think that not a single person in any of these groups is at all effected? Or that that effect is somehow lesser? Nope. It’s probably about the same. In certain situations, it can even be worse. But we don’t talk about them. You can find commentary anywhere about racism towards black Americans, towards Latin@s, not as much towards Middle Easterners (because like Jews, they often get discluded from the POC groups). That is what is talked about. And isn’t it strange? We always talk about how we shouldn’t “other” groups and yet, in discussions of stereotypes, stigma, and prejudice, talking about “white” groups is “irrelevant”. Almost like…it’s the norm? Is that what you’re trying to say? That whiteness is clearly absolutely normative, so normative in fact that there is no variation? When you disclude white people from this discussion, you’re pretty much saying that “Yes all these other people aren’t the norm, so they need to be talked about”. 

But it’s not. Like with any group on the face of the planet, white people vary significantly not just in appearance but language, dialect, behavior, and yes, culture. And also like any group on the face of the planet, when one group of white people declare something the norm, it isn’t just discluding non-white people, it’s discluding any white people who don’t fit neatly into that box. That’s why Ireland was almost wiped off the face of the planet. That’s why Jews are so heavily targeted even by white supremacist groups. That’s why Russians are seen as communist bigots by default. That’s why people see Southerners either as cartoons or racists without acknowledging that those are stereotypes. 

And it does affect those people. The fact that this poster exists means it has effected someone. 

I know it doesn’t match up to your worldview. But there has to be an understanding of how narrow that cultural box of “normative” is in the U.S. because it is not just “white”. That’s not enough. You have to talk the right way. You have to think the right way. You have to behave the right way. Lemme give you an anecdote. In my cross-cultural psychology class, my professor had the entire class participate in the Twenty Statements Test. This was made to determine whether a person is more individualistic or collectivist, and for the most part, the cultural variations were universal. People in Asian and African countries tended to be more collectivist, wherein people viewed themselves as a part of the group, and defined themselves by who they were in their community. Whereas the people in Western countries defined themselves by their personal characteristics. And that held true for my class. Except for me. And I was terrified, before the professor explained all this, that I had done something wrong. Because I have been taught, thanks to people like yourself, thanks to a curriculum which sees “white” as a generalizable term, that I have to be a certain way. And if I deviate from that, I get scared. I think there’s something wrong with me. Can you imagine that? I’m sure you can. Now imagine that simultaneously, you’re also told you’re a horrible person by default, just because of your skin color. Not only are you not “white” enough to fit into this very strict definition, because you talk different, because you act different, because your culture is different, but you’re also too “white” to fit in anywhere else, because your ancestors are dicks, because you “don’t understand other cultures”.

But no one understand those cultures either. A person makes an uninformed statement about non-white cultures, people are quick to correct them. A person makes an uninformed statement about white cultures, no correction. In fact, on Tumblr, to correct such a statement means you must be a supremacist or a racist or something like that. 

I think we need an understanding here. The vast majority of white people, everywhere, are poor, are different, don’t fit in that box - that box that is set by an elite who most white people will never ever reach. And they might get more tangible “privileges” because they happen to be white, but then they lose tangible privileges because of their accent, their class, their language, their culture. And they lose social privileges, of course. You know why so many white people on Tumblr get mad when people say lets kill all white people? All white people are racist? White people suck? White people are all bigots? Because we white people get told, constantly, our entire childhoods, at least where I grew up, about what our ancestors did. And we get told constantly how horrible it was. And the last thing we want to be is like that. So for some people like me, especially because I was different, because my culture was different, we try really hard to be as little like that as possible. We try. So when we get online and see that, it’s like a punch in the stomach. Imagine being told your entire life you amount to nothing, that you’re a monster, just because of your ancestry, and trying so hard not to be like that, but constantly being told that no matter what you do, you will always be like that. Can you? I bet you can. And I bet you never for a second thought there was a single white person who felt like that, because like I said before, no one talks about that. And why? We’ve established pretty clearly that we can talk about multiple things. Talking about representation of women in video games doesn’t take away from talking about sex slavery. Talking about casual racism doesn’t take away from talking about violent racism. So why does that one poster in any way negate the rest? How does accepting the stigma that white groups go through in any way negate talking about what POC groups go through? It doesn’t.

In fact I think it makes the discussion more effective. The reason racism exists is because of othering. Because we see groups as not like us. That’s how it starts. It continues when, even when trying to battle that stigma, you still other. Only talking about POC groups in this discussion, is othering. It’s reinforcing a false norm. You honestly think that’ll help? The reason I study culture, the reason why I felt guilty when I was young, the reason why I have made an effort to try and be as accepting as possible, in everything I do - that stems from the fact that I realized I was different. A long time ago. Before I even came out of the closet, because of the environment I grew up in which was so unlike all the other kids around me. I realized I was different. I realized how it hurt me. How I felt going to school, being a target for those differences. That’s what starts empathy, the opposite of racism in every way. Don’t you think that pointing out where white people go through this, where white groups are stigmatized, that they share similarities to the stigma other groups face, that a lot of white people won’t look at that and relate? When you can relate a situation to something you experience, you empathize with it more. It doesn’t seem so different. It doesn’t seem so “othered”. That’s how you battle it.

So no, it’s not irrelevant. It’s incredibly relevant. 


If you only reblog one thing today, please make it this

For the last two and a bit years, I’ve had the great pleasure of working with somebody who just so happened to develop breast cancer.

It didn’t define her, but what did was her resolve in the face of what is, for many of us, an illness we or somebody we know will experience in their lifetime.

We’ve all heard of breast cancer, and probably seen the pink logo associated with it, but did you know that men can also develop breast cancer? 

It makes sense really, given that we do have breast tissue too.

What’s staggering is just how few people know male breast cancer exists, or how to spot it.

The Feel Yourself campaign seeks to raise awareness of cancer in young adults of any gender, and this October they’re planning a campaign to tackle the falsity that only women can get breast cancer.

#FeelBroSelf aims to use this Breast Cancer Awareness month to raise awareness where it is also desperately needed - in male breast cancer.

This doesn’t mean that if you don’t identify as male you can’t help out: It doesn’t cost you a thing to hit that reblog button and help towards defeating this terrible illness once and for all.

My dear followers, whatever your blog, whatever you’re doing, whatever importance you believe your life has, somewhere in the world there are a group of men who have left a tumour undiagnosed because they don’t believe men can get breast cancer. It is our responsibility to save those people from their lack of awareness, because we ourselves are, in fact, people. 

There is much wrong with the world, so let’s stop talking about it and start doing something about it. Start by sharing this, start by saving a life.

Tomorrow, it could be somebody you know.